Gay marriage/Same sex marriage, what does the Bible say?
This is a very sensitive issue that divides people, even family, relatives and long-time friends. But, respectfully, failure to address this subject is a dereliction of duty to the love and care we all should have for one another.
To start with, “marriage” is taught to have started in the garden of Eden. This was presented to be based on “love”, being taken from the “rib” (close to the heart) as in Gen. 2:21-23, and for the couple to “go and multiply”(Gen. 1:28; 9:7). It takes male and female to “procreate”.
Regarding homosexuality, by definition, it is a sex preference of persons for the same sex; whereas heterosexuality refers to male and female predilection. Of and by itself, this sexual preference is not sin and should not be discriminated against. It is when the “preference” is acted out “mentally or overtly” against the moral laws, i.e., committing homosexual act, that it becomes sinful. For all, whether heterosexuals, homosexuals or bisexuals, they should avoid sexual immorality, including adultery for heterosexuals. We should welcome all, irrespective of race, gender, sexual preference, religion, status, etc. as we are all created by one God. As the saying goes, “love the sinner, not the sin”. Love for all is the mantra while not condoning actual sin or ignoring that it exists and we should guard against it.
Temptation devolves into Sin
Notice the stages of sin from temptation and how “lust” develops into sin:
“But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death”(James 1:14-15 KJV)
“These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death”.(James 1:15 NLT)
“But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire”.(James 1:14 ESV)
With our “desire or lust”, we are tempted, lured or enticed towards sin. Then, when we “dwell, concentrate, imagine, or got carried away”, this progresses to mental or actual physical acts, both of which constitute sin/eternal death.(Matt. 5:28; Mk. 7:20-23).
The word “abomination” that characterizes ” homosexual acts” is exemplified in:
“Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it [is] abomination.”(Leviticus 18:22).
The word “abomination” comes from Hebrew word “toevah” (plural, toevot) and occurs 103x. It almost always has the connotation of a non-Israelite cult practice. In the Torah, the primary “toevah” is “avodah zara”, foreign forms of worship, and most other toevot flow from it. The Israelites are instructed not to commit toevah because other nations do so, as in, Deut. 18:9-12.this word is akin to our present understanding of the word “taboo”, referring to cultural indictment.
Having stated the preceding, homosexual acts are as sinful and worthy of “eternal death” as adultery, fornication and other sexual perversions. To overcome such practices, one should follow the following principles:
“Flee fornication… fornication sinneth against his own body. …your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?…ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s“. (I Cor. 6:18-20KJV)
“Flee from sexual immorality.”(1 Cor.6:18 ESV)
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: …that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;”(1Thes.4:3-5 ESV)
“He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:”(I Cor. 7:32)
“Now concerning virgins (either gender)…I say, that it is good for a man so to be.”)I Cor. 7:25-26)
“But this I say, brethren, the time is short: … both they that have wives be as though they had none;“(I Cor. 7:29)
In summary, for anyone with any sexual preference, have “control of your body” and flee from the temptation of sexual immorality or “pull of the flesh”. Marriage for homosexuals bring the couple closer to the temptation of committing homosexual acts in the “privacy of their homes” and should be avoided. Marriage does not confer legitimacy or morality for the “act” and can not be used to “cover” immorality. Celibacy for heterosexuals or homosexuals maybe an option for those with proclivities toward sexual immorality. The Holy Spirit will sanctify us and strengthen the “weak flesh” for the glory of God. Believe in God and this gift of the Holy Spirit of power will be given to us to overcome temptation before it degenerates to sin.